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So, this is the kind of thing that happens to me and some of my friends...a lot! And we struggle with finding words to describe it. Here's a real-world example; let's pretend it happened to you for better understanding.

It's the 21st century. You just had a baby (i.e., pushed a newborn out of your body a couple of days ago). You're overjoyed because it's your first live birth and you're nearly forty years old (so your biological clock was like this: TICK-TOCK! TICK-TOCK!). You're in the hospital, and it's time to go home. Your mother comes to pick you up but forgot to bring the infant car seat, probably because you were born before even seat belts were legally required (to be installed in automobiles), so it's understandable.

However, when you remind your mother that the baby (her only grandchild) can't leave without a car seat (not legally), she somehow implies--repeatedly--that you are just being fussy (about legalities and child safety). Due to exhaustion, you respond in an Eeyorish way: "Yes, Mother, I'm anal-retentive today...but not vaginally retentive, not anymore." And you add: "See there!" as you point directly to your newborn babe (to drive home the child-safety side of your argument).

Well, your response could've been better (much, much better), but what is a word for what just happened to you there?

My mother just _____ me.

In the 80s, the blank could've been filled in with dissed (by those who used it to mean wronged in any possible, conceivable way), but I'm searching for a more specific word, phrase or idiom to describe 'taking flak' from people who can't handle everyday details well. Regardless of how well intentioned they may be, they're just not up for the task (tasks to which they've committed themselves) for whatever reasons.

The current word I am misusing for this is 'expedited' (in single or air quotes) in order to also suggest skipping details.

My mother just 'expedited' me.

Another example:

You done been 'expedited'!

It may be said in a joking way, but it means that you met with some sort of resistance (such as tuning out, frowns, scoffs, negative remarks, personal attacks, false news, conspiracy theories, etc.) for bringing up a detail that is considered common knowledge (something known by most people within a community).

For example, you met with some resistance from other parents for bringing up "no nut products allowed" while discussing school snack rotation (even though they know that some kids like to share food and that allergies are unknown until they are known...and that the school could be held liable for neglecting that detail.

Thanks for any suggestions.

Regarding research: I thought I had forgotten a Psych 101 term (so a layman's term) for this, but I couldn't find anything specific about being 'expedited' (as I call it) after an exhaustive search (mainly definitions, synonyms, idioms, and psychobabble).

BTW, I'm a CODA (child of deaf adults) who prefers not to use words such as deaf and blind figuratively.

(Just FYI, this is a retelling of a birth story, a very tiny part; the whole thing would take several years to retell, on average. That's how I know all the minute details. It's sort of a big deal.)

The problem is I don't think there's an English word for exactly this, because you said your mother thought you were being „fussy“ about this. It certainly was not such strong opposition to suggest „flak“ which would be far too strong.

Flak is like military shells (figuratively). Saying you were „dissed“ doesn`t sound too 80sish to me, just not quite right. That´s more like she put you down over it (not what happened). I think the closest you can get to it is something a lot milder, like „she gave me a little heat about it.“ But I wouldn’t say „heat“ alone, just „a little heat“. It needs to be a word or phrase that suggests you were worrying unnecessarily about something, in her opinion.

Ignore, perhaps?

My mother just ignored me.

Or other phrases with similar meaning -

pay no attention

take no notice

brush aside (my) concerns

Thank you for offering a suggestion of how you might use the word/phrase that you seek. Deriving the meaning from your story and example sentence, I think your mother just "disregarded" you.
I attached the thesaurus page using the same word. It has several other clever and nuanced suggestions.

However, if you would prefer to use an idiom, she might also be "turning a deaf ear" to you. Hopefully these will help helps.

My mother just disregarded me.

My mother just turned a deaf ear to me.

https://www.thefreedictionary.com/disregard

https://www.freethesaurus.com/disregard

https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/turn+a+deaf+ear

It's a bit like intimidation - you have a concern you think is legitimate, but they're trying to bully or browbeat you into submission.

Flout?
ARCHAIC
mock; scoff.
"the women pointed and flouted at her"

I quite like 'dismissed my concerns', though it doesn't roll off the tongue. I think 'diss' derives from 'disrespect'